Them Men Do Get Weary....So Try A Little Tenderness....

Here I am again, attempting to jump back in the groove of blogging. It's been a minute- but I (think?) I am back at it again.
What's on my mind tonight?
My heart is aching for a friend of mine who is such a good man, good husband and father. The kind of mate single women would snatch a strand of his DNA and wait patiently in order to clone him kind of man. Now, you skeptical females may ask "Why arent you with him if he's so wonderful?" "How do you really know he's just not giving you his side of the story?" or the best one .."How do you know it's not a sob story to get some action on the side?" Ladies and Gents, if this was some random, average dude, doing average dude things- then I would have to be in complete agreement with those questions as the tale may be a possible underlying motive to have and justify an affair.



However he is not. I promise you.

With that said- let's go in.



I am going to keep this as blunt as possible.

Ladies if you have a good husband- be intimate with him. Often. You need clarification? Have. Sex. With. Him. Alot.

You have a man that fears God, works all day, pays all of the bills, takes care of the children, every need you could possibly have, prays with and for you, checks the worries of the world on the threshold of the home and walks in with a smile, you had better smile back. ESPECIALLY you stay at home wives. I am not saying that a stay at home wife does not have a job to perform, your work is equally taxing. However there is no reason under God's blue and infinite sky- that he should not come home to a warm dinner, an even warmer smile and greeting. In that alone- you have reaffirmed that everthing he has gone through the day has a valid reason.

His family.

And after all is said and done, dinner is done, homework checked, kids tucked away- it is time to perform your wifely duties and submit to his and YOUR needs. Your bedroom is your sanctuary, and you had better submit.

Now if you have good husband- and you follow these simple rules, leaving the doors of intimacy(communication, communication, COMMUNICATION, trust, reassurance, a solid foundation and love- I promise you sisters, your man wont look for anything greener and will sympathize with his buddies who cant have the marriage he has because unfortunately, you his Goddess, his Queen, is UNAVAILABLE. You are his virtous woman, and your worth is FAR beyond rubies.

This is not applicable for a wordly man just looking to achieve his next conquest, does not have a spiritual foundation and believes that the grass is greener elsewhere, or just has a lust for a hoodrat demon on him. Some men are just by the world's terms, happily single. Leave him BE. A straight up No ma'am is sufficient. You have to leave those specimens to God to work on.

Now you know how to keep your husbands, not your Tiger Woods, home.

However, if you do not follow these simple applications. Let me tell you what WILL happen.
That attractive single/her man isnt treating her right/looking for a sponsor woman who smiles a little too warmly at him, advises him that she would never treat him that way, will lead to exchange of numbers, conversations that get a little passionate, and Lord knows, the internet has left too many options avaible - a buffet for a suffering, starving man, to find someone who YOU as his wife...should be adhering to. You have handed your husband, although it is adultery, a green card to cheat.

By no means do I condone stepping out of the marriage. It is a SIN. Period. HOWEVER you have now set up situation that may become hard to get out of. If the affair and your frigid ways have gone on too long? Your husband may give every romantic, sexual, and emotional notion to a woman, when it is rightfully YOURS. But YOU did not do your part. So now she falls madly in love with YOUR husband, she receives the getaway rendevous (your vacation) flower, cards, and jewelry. All the things he initially wanted to do for you.

And when you notice the new pep in his step, the new cologne, the new clothing, and he is NOW not bothering you at all for the intimacy he once direly craved from YOU - what do you do now? In some cases, the affair may not have gone that far along and your marriage can be saved- but sometimes, the man will cut his losses financially, pay his child support and see the kids on the weekends and holidays- but you are now out of a good husband- a commodity that is rare today, and the one God blessed you with.

Sucks doesnt it? It could have been avoided....

In closing, ladies, I flip the Otis Redding original classic, please understand- them good men do get weary....

So try a little ...tenderness.